March 12: Another contact from ED, he wants to talk on the phone. This is fast, I'm reluctant to do it, in my opinion it is not safe until you get to know each other better. I'm stalled, not sure how to say this to him without being insulting.
March 12: First contact from ELG who thinks I may have the qualities he is looking for: independent, kind, caring, honest, dependable and funny. I am all these things and more. To prove how humorous I can be, I tease him about his profile photos. Very bad decision--I receive a cold little reply which says he has to go out of town.
March 13: Here it comes, DANS mentions how good-looking he thinks I am. Actually, he's mentioned it a couple of times. The internet world is extremely visual-use your outstandly fabulous (and full body, clothed) photo with a compelling profile to work some online magic. There are alot of people out there, so be unique-think of it as your person marketing campaign. Then get down to the business of getting to know each other. Did you know that prospective partners are most likely to be especially truthful in this initial stage? After all, what do they have to lose? Now is the best time to use this little piece of information to ask a few revealing questions...
HORROR STORY: On another dating site, I emailed back and forth with a man whose wonderful smile and thick head of black hair caught my fancy. When we finally met for a coffee date, I walked right past him and had to be called to his table. Gone was my potential sexy mate. In his place sat a weathered-looking old man, who was missing both the teeth and the hair. I spent the first few minutes of the date struggling to keep the shock from showing on my face--his photo had to have been 15-20 years old.
Back to DANS,he wants to chat further and asks what would work. I do my usual and insist on some more email contact before anything else happens. Two or three emails seems to be a reasonable request before talking in person, enough to know what to say to each other and also enough to figure out if you are interested in going further. Because I seem to be full of information today AND just so you know, reputable internet dating sites set up anonymous email messaging onsite for you under your profile (not real) name. There is no need for any contacts to obtain any of your confidential personal information. This is a safety feature and it is wise not to mess with it until you are absolutely sure. Beware of those who try to get you to give out your home email or home phone number right away. Also, caring men with class will offer their phone numbers to you first.
Thursday, July 23, 2009
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