March 11: First contact with a man whose profile name is JO. He keeps both his profile and inital contact short and sweet. Likes my comment about part-time princes and wants "that elusive person who makes his heart skip a beat". Sweet.
March 11: Also first contact from another man who is a millwright and crafts wooden furniture as a hobby. Cool, I love wood. DANS likes the way I write, he is also a deep thinker and very articulate. We exchange some comments on our favorite woods-mine is good, solid English oak...his tastes are more exotic and in the form of figure maple, macassar ebony and osage orange.
March 11: First contact with ED, who literally writes and says: "Hello, my name is _______". Truly a man of few words. I ask for more information about him and am reminded here that men write in a more factual manner than women. However, showing some emotion on a topic would be a great way to attract attention.
After another email, it becomes clear-he is from Montreal and French is his first language. I wonder if it is true that French men are very romantic. In this second email from ED, he shares that he loves ballroom dancing and can dance all night. He is also interested what I like to do and asks what books I read. I provide some snippets of information and feel things are off to a good start.
Monday, June 8, 2009
Monday, June 1, 2009
THE COFFEE DATE DIARIES: MY PROFILE IS FINALLY ONLINE!
March 10-Join popular internet dating site. This site boasts more successful relationships than any other. They all do that, but this one feels different, it is well maintained and monitored closely by its individual creator. A homegrown, "personal touch" to the vast universe of the internet. Who knew?
And so it begins. My profile is posted online and is quite assertive-I omit "I like long walks on the beach at sunset" and other obvious cliches. There are no flowery words or exaggerated sentiments here; my life experiences propel me to the heart of the matter. An excerpt of my profile follows:
"...high quality, sexy, humourous woman wants to share laughter as well as tears with an emotionally healthy man. Please also be physically healty and willing to work together to resolve differences, rather than trying to "win". You will value our time together and expect some individual time apart. I will respect your traditional values and appreciate the way you truly include me in your life, rather than simply adding me to your itinerary. We will be great partners if you are honest, compassionate, respectful and share your hopes and dreams. We will get along even better if you are funny, clean, calm and dependable. This lady does not need several "part-time princes"--I desire the king of my heart. Absolutely no smokers or ancient photographs, please".
It's all about the profile. Writing an effective one is imperative. Here's the deal-I certainly didn't corner the market on profile greatness, although mine got an excellent response and was therefore effective. Expect to have a lot of people looking at your profile and not so many actually getting in touch.
Please be generous and share your thoughts/ideas with me on the best way to present your truest self without divulging too much or sounding drippy.
And so it begins. My profile is posted online and is quite assertive-I omit "I like long walks on the beach at sunset" and other obvious cliches. There are no flowery words or exaggerated sentiments here; my life experiences propel me to the heart of the matter. An excerpt of my profile follows:
"...high quality, sexy, humourous woman wants to share laughter as well as tears with an emotionally healthy man. Please also be physically healty and willing to work together to resolve differences, rather than trying to "win". You will value our time together and expect some individual time apart. I will respect your traditional values and appreciate the way you truly include me in your life, rather than simply adding me to your itinerary. We will be great partners if you are honest, compassionate, respectful and share your hopes and dreams. We will get along even better if you are funny, clean, calm and dependable. This lady does not need several "part-time princes"--I desire the king of my heart. Absolutely no smokers or ancient photographs, please".
It's all about the profile. Writing an effective one is imperative. Here's the deal-I certainly didn't corner the market on profile greatness, although mine got an excellent response and was therefore effective. Expect to have a lot of people looking at your profile and not so many actually getting in touch.
Please be generous and share your thoughts/ideas with me on the best way to present your truest self without divulging too much or sounding drippy.
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